Retired future poker player, current nomadic uncle, aspiring intentional live-r.

In an even earlier lifetime, I was a data scientist and quit my corporate job to play poker. But then, I realized all I did was swap my corporate treadmill for a competitive-gaming exercise bike, and that I hadn't actually solved the incongruence of driving to the gym and taking the elevator to get on an exercise machine to work off all the processed foods I stress ate. So now, I’m walking outside instead, constantly checking how much longer it’ll be until I’ve reached my step goal for the day.

(To be clear, this is all strictly a metaphor. I've never actually been motivated to consistently go to the gym; I have a very high metabolism that tricked me into thinking I was healthy when I wasn't. Also, my metaphors may need work. Help me please?)

🔍 About Me

Name: George

Age: 34

Height: 5’8

Location: Nomadic (with a temporary home base in the SF Bay Area)

Occupation: Funemployed explorer (aka whatever I want)

Religion: Agnostic but closer to spiritual

I quit my corporate job in 2019 and spent the next few years studying (running programs / developing strategies / memorizing decision trees) and playing poker because I wanted to see how good I could be at something that more matched my skillsets. At the same time, after becoming aware to how much my achievement mindset had driven my life for so long and how I no longer wanted that, I’ve decided that poker will likely just be a way for me to offset costs going forward and not the primary focus of my life. So I've become interested in traveling (seeing the world, meeting cool people, having new experiences), and I was on an extended roadtrip for almost 2 years across the US (primarily through National Parks and secondarily through art museums—yes, my header picture is from Chihuli in Seattle). More recently, I was in Peru for a month and LOVED it, and I’m tentatively looking forward to a Europe⇒Africa⇒SE Asia cruise I have planned towards the end of 2025.

Longer term, I know that I'll likely want to be geographically flexible or nomadic. I'm not sure for how long I'll want to travel or if I eventually want to establish a more permanent home (forming a community of likeminded people does interest me intellectually). I'll very likely be interested in having children at some point, because I find children to be wonderful learning beings and I'd like to help with and be a part of that process, but as I've learned over the years, I never truly know what future George wants. No matter how convinced I am at any moment that past George was wrong but NOW present George is completely right, I know it's all a trick. I think.

🕵️ What I Am Looking For

Relationship Goals:

• Open to both monogamy and nonmonogamy: I’ve traditionally only been in monogamous romantic relationships but I’ve grown to appreciate the nonduality of relationships (i.e. a spectrum from acquaintances to more platonic friendships to primary life partner) and realize that our love isn’t finite. Ultimately, I do expect to be monogamish (if not monogamous), as my energy and interests tend to hyperfixate more than those of most polyamorous people do
• Children: Yes please! And hopefully more than 1 (I was an only child)! I ultimately would like to be a stay-at-home parent and would be thrilled if my partner would want to as well, especially for the early years of the children’s lives
• Platonic connections: open and excited about connecting with people even if it doesn’t lead to “my one true soulmate” (/whatever the nonmonogamous version of that is)

Ideal Partner:

• More motivated by her own desires than those of other people and of society

• Chaotic good: rules are only guidelines and I’d hope that kindness and care for other beings trumps all. But also, some such guidelines hopefully are more important than others (i.e. radical honesty with each other and with our children is near the top)

• Adventurous: more inspired by new experiences than by comfortable routines

• Neverending mutual teasing (including of ourselves). For example, my college application essay was about the tribulations of growing up short (I was robbed of a storied NBA career by these struggles)

Toni Stark (if she exists) is my ideal

• Very ADHD conversations: as you can probably already tell by my liberal use of parentheses, I get distracted easily in my writing, and I can confirm that conversing with me is a similarly disjointed experience

Values:

• Curiosity and open-mindedness: relatedly, an understanding that the absence of evidence does not mean the evidence of absence
• Authenticity and honesty (both with oneself and with other people)
• Platinum Rule >>> Golden Rule: Treat others the way THEY would like to be treated. Abiding by the Golden Rule places your expectations onto other people, and that's a common source of conflict in society

💭 I Spend a Lot of Time Thinking About

• The balance between self-acceptance and self-improvement